Free Access Boyfriend Makes Me Feel Bad For Not Having Sex

So, My 'Free Access' Boyfriend's Got Me in a Bind

Picture this: You're on a date, the conversation's flowing like a fine wine, and suddenly, your date leans in and says, "You know, I believe in free access relationships." Now, I'm all for open communication and consent, but I was caught off guard. I mean, who brings up their relationship philosophy on the first date?

Anyway, fast forward a few dates, and I'm starting to feel like I'm in a relationship with a walking, talking, ahem, "free access" billboard. Every time we're together, he's dropping hints, making suggestions, and I'm over here feeling like I'm in a constant state of 'should I or shouldn't I'?

What's a Girl to Do?

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm all for consensual, safe, and enjoyable sex. But when it feels like it's the only thing on the menu, it starts to feel a bit... pressuring. I've started to feel bad for not jumping on board the 'free access' train. I mean, is it just me, or is it weird that I feel guilty for not wanting to have sex all the time?

I've started to question myself. Am I being too uptight? Too old-fashioned? Should I just go with the flow and enjoy the ride? But then I remember, my body, my rules. Just because he's all about 'free access' doesn't mean I have to be. Right?

Let's Talk About Boundaries

So, I've started to think about boundaries. You know, those invisible lines we draw to protect ourselves and our comfort zones. I've been so caught up in his 'free access' philosophy that I've forgotten to set my own boundaries. It's like I've been so focused on his comfort that I've neglected my own.

I've started to realize that it's okay to say 'no'. It's okay to set boundaries and stick to them. It's okay to have a different philosophy about sex and relationships. And it's definitely okay to feel bad about feeling bad - because that's just a sign that something's not sitting right with you.

Communication: The Key to Unlocking It All

So, I've decided to have a chat with my 'free access' boyfriend. I mean, communication is key, right? I'll explain how I'm feeling, and maybe we can find a middle ground. Maybe he'll understand where I'm coming from, and maybe he'll help me understand his perspective better too.

Because at the end of the day, it's all about respect, consent, and communication. It's about understanding that just because someone has a certain philosophy, it doesn't mean we have to adopt it wholesale. It's about finding what works for us, as individuals and as a couple.

So, here's to setting boundaries, communicating openly, and remembering that it's okay to say 'no'. Because after all, it's our bodies, our rules. And that's something worth fighting for.